When we're feeling not enough or we're overwhelmed with self-doubt, those harsh thoughts can be so convincing. We can start to believe the stories that the mind is telling us: Everyone else seems to have it together. What's wrong with me? Am I behind? What if I'm not worthy of having a loving relationship? What if nothing I do will ever make me enough?
These thoughts, whatever they may be, can start to feel like the truth. But when we're feeling not enough, it's so important to remember that these thoughts are just thoughts. Picture them like little clouds passing through your mind — slowly drifting through, and already on their way out.
When you feel stuck in the "I'm not enough" thoughts, it can be helpful to move away from these thoughts, and relax your body, in a way that feels safe. Because while your mind may be taking you to imaginary scenarios, your body is here, right now.
Let's take a moment to practice it together:
When you're feeling not enough...
1. Notice the harsh inner voice. That's it! Just acknowledge that this feeling of not enoughness is present. This feeling is allowed to be here.
2. Relax your body. Maybe inhale for 4 breaths, and exhale for 6. Where are you holding tension? Maybe unclench your jaw, release any tension around your eyes, release any gripping in your throat or stomach.
3. Talk to this part of you that feels not enough, as if you were having a real conversation. Ask it: what's going on? What sparked this feeling? Is this true or is it just a fear?
4. Soothe this part. Maybe that sounds like:
- I am doing enough
- I don't need to prove myself
- I am allowed to go slower today
- I don't have to perform to be loved
- I deserve rest without guilt
The point of this practice isn't to "fix" this feeling of not enoughness or self-doubt, but to be with it. When we can practice noticing this inner experience and soothing ourselves through it, we can remember, even if just for a second, that these thoughts aren't you — you're the one observing them.
About Meg Josephson: Meg Josephson is a licensed therapist and author of the New York Times bestseller, Are You Mad at Me? Her honest reflections on healing, boundaries, and self-worth have created a powerful space for collective growth. Her guidance helps keep ENOUGH’s message raw, relatable, and grounded in emotional truth.
